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Updates on Life with the Littles


Wow, have these 8 months been a whirlwind. It seemed we had so much more time before Arden arrived, and I should have taken advantage of it. I used to be semi-okay about blogging, and trying to keep up and capture things going on with us, but that definitely dropped off as life got busy.

So, I wanted to take some time to document some of the high points of Arden since she arrived 8 months ago. I can’t believe she is already 8 months old, and Emerson almost 3.

Arden still doesn’t have any full blown teeth yet. Just last week one sort of started to poke through the gum (on the bottom right side, not in the center like expected). Hasn’t changed much since then, but she will get teeth someday.

Not sleeping through the night, or anywhere close. She wakes up multiple times per night whether it be to nurse or for a pacifier. We just transitioned her to her crib a few weeks ago, which I can’t say is better or worse. She was in a bassinet on my side of the bed before that, so at least I didn’t have to get out of bed to sooth her. Before the bassinet she slept in the Fisher Price Rock N’ Play, which she still actually naps in pretty well. Those things are lifesavers. We also just got this crib aquarium thing you put on the side of crib for babies to watch and listen to in order to fall asleep. It worked the first night, not so much the next, so we will see if that provides any relief.

We have also transitioned out of swaddling. She was swaddled until about 6-7 months old, and starting getting out of it so I moved her to a Merlin’s Magic Sleep Suit (look it up, pretty cool) which worked well, and then no swaddle at all. There were a rough few nights, but now we are sans swaddle and she doesn’t seem to mind.

Arden is also sitting up on her own completely. She still topples over occasionally, or dives head first to the floor so she can be on her tummy, but other than that she’s got it. She started doing that at about 7 months and keeps getting better. No crawling yet, pulling herself up, or standing on her own really. She loves to bounce, but doesn’t take steps or seem to interested in walkers or anything. I wonder if she will be a late walker. Crawling I don’t think is too far off, though. She is too interested in all of Emerson’s things to just sit still.

She is talking more and more. Right now aside from yelling/screeching, she says “da-da” and “ba-ba” and sometimes “ma-ma” but that is mostly when she is upset. She doesn’t cry very often at all, but definitely whines if there is something she wants or isn’t happy about.

Rolling over has long ago been mastered, both ways. She knows which way to roll to get the direction she wants to go. Somehow, too, she can rotate 360 degrees when on her back or belly. She pivots around in circles, so like I said, I think we will see some crawling soon.

Hair is still very minimal, but coming in more each day. The ongoing debate is the color. Some days it looks blonde, others red. Only time will tell.

Arden is very much a girly-girl. From her high-pitched voice and laugh (the most ADORABLE laugh) to her pointed toes, and dainty fingers, and skinny little legs…I think she is going to be a little princess all the way, which is completely fine by me.

Eating is a touchy subject. She will nurse and take bottles all day, no problem (although she’s always at 4 ounces bottles, rarely anything more). However, when it comes to solids her interest is scarce. We started food at 4 months per her doctor, but there are really only a handful of times she has actually eaten a good amount of food. I even had to throw out tons of homemade baby food I made as it got too old since she wouldn’t eat it. Lately I have been trying the baby-led weaning and moved passed purees right to finger foods. Arden is definitely interested and puts them in her mouth, but then spits it all back out. Very little makes it to her belly. Right now I am just waiting it out and we make sure to try each day. She’s bound to eat someday, right?

Arden has a bit of a temper sometimes that I am noticing lately. Specifically if you take something she wants, or don’t let her have something she wants. Get ready to hear it. Last night she wanted my sandwich and got really angry, crying, when I wouldn’t let her hold it/eat it. It makes me smile though as her personality is developing.

Recently Arden has starting waving, and clapping a bit as well. Bath time is one of her favorite things to do, especially when her and Emerson get to take baths together. She sure does love Emerson, too. She loves to watch him, play with his toys, and gets so happy when he talks to her and plays with her. I think at times, though, he gets annoyed by her and he is having a really tough time sharing. When I see those moments though, however few and far between, when they click and share moments, it just makes my heart melt.

Emerson is growing like a weed in so many ways. His speech and vocabulary are amazing and so clear. We can carry on conversations and he is beginning to tell us stories and also talk to/for his toys and use his imagination when he plays alone. It is so cute. Whenever Dewey or I hear something he says that makes us smile, we email it to each other. Some of the latest ones are:

“Magmin” – Napkin

“Lellow” – Yellow

“Ellyick” – Elliot

“Nana” – Banana

“Bike-a-cytle” – Bicycle or motorcycle

“Freezerator” – Freezer

“Watergun Shooter” – Water gun

“Rocket Ship” – Jet streams

“Nilla milk” – Vanilla Pediasure

“Mommy’s Elbows” – where milk comes from for Arden

We just had his very first dental appointment on 2/25. I really wanted to get started on the right foot with dental care since Dewey’s teeth are so bad. I was really worried about how he would do (will he open his mouth, cry, etc). However, he did so great. He didn’t speak to any doctor (shy gene) but he listened, opened his mouth for the most part, let them clean his teeth, and got to play and get a prize. I think it helped that he got to sit with Dewey on the dental chair and he felt safer. I hope it goes as well the next time around.

Emerson likes to do more and more things “by myself” lately too, which is tough sometimes as it takes much longer, but exciting to see him grow. He likes to brush his teeth by himself, climb into his bed, put on his hat and mittens and socks, pull up his pants, take off his diaper (see story below), climb into the bath, pouring his own milk, take off his shoes, and one of the latest is taking a shower. He finally overcame his fear of the shower head and loves to shower now (with one of us) but he stays in there forever (and falls sometimes).

Speaking of the diaper things, the diaper removal had been dangerous lately. He did it the other day, alone in his room, with a diaper full of poop. That was not pretty smelling, or to clean up. Yikes. We have been backing off the potty training a bit as he is losing interest. A few weeks ago he was rocking it out and I thought we had it in the bag (wearing underpants, telling us when he had to go, getting stickers and marshmallows) but then one week it just stopped. Right now he doesn’t want to use the potty or wear underpants, but he still tells us when he fills his diaper which is good.

We have to have him potty trained completely by September or no pre-school, so I have hope that will happen. We just enrolled him in the Catholic preschool where Owen goes (St. Joseph’s). I am nervous about it, but also excited he can get out and meet friends. We visited another school in town which we both didn’t like, and we may still visit a few more but we wanted to at least get him a spot if we could.

Emerson still absolutely loves movies, TV, and games on the iPad and iPhone which we really try to limit. He is awesome at puzzles, and some of his favorite shows are Thomas the Train, Berenstein Bears, Chuggington, and of course Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. We are getting to the age where we have to be careful about what we put on TV when he is around but he is paying attention more and noticing what is on.

I think we have officially transitioned our bedtime routine as well. It used to be me only, never Daddy and we would read a few books, brush teeth, milk, and bed. Now Daddy has taken over that role while I put Arden to bed. However their routine usually ends up with Daddy and Emerson both falling asleep together in Emerson’s bed. Either way, I miss our routine sometimes, but it is good for Emerson and Dewey to have that time while Arden and I have ours.

One of my favorite things to do with Emerson is when he and I go grocery shopping together. He is a big helper and keeps me company and enjoys riding in the grocery cart. I also have fun when he and I go get milkshakes or ice cream together. Banana and Vanilla is the latest favorite (Steak and Shake). We have been having a lot of family dance parties lately too, which is awesome and all thanks to Dewey (who knew). We blast the music and everyone dances to burn off steam and just have fun. Emerson is starting to like it more and more and even shows off his moves. It is so much fun.

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Life with Mr. Emerson


I don’t think there is enough space to write about Emerson and the funny things he does and says, and how much he has grown! He is doing so well with Arden. He loves to help us care for her, get her pacifier, her blankets, talk to her, etc. He is such a great brother to her. Emerson doesn’t show jealously or resentment toward her at all. I couldn’t ask for anything better there.

He is talking up a storm, though. Some of my favorites:

“I’ll be riiiight back”.

“I’m busy”.

“Can I see that for a minute?”


He knows his ABC’s, can count to 20, knows his colors and shapes and is just so smart. Last weekend Emerson showed us how he could pedal his tricycle all by himself! He loves to show us how he can run fast, and jump high.

Mickey Mouse is his favorite right now, although he is moving to Thomas the Train too. Poor Elmo has taken a backseat.

That’s all for now…kids are up :)

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Still Recovering


Well, life is pretty much taking on a new routine, between work, daycare, and school our weeks are packed to the brim. I live for the weekends it seems where we can slow down a little bit and enjoy the time we all have together. The evenings are so short, I feel like I barely get to see Emerson before he is ready for bed. Luckily today I got to see him most of the day because I was home from work, although I wasn’t able to enjoy it as fully as I had hoped since I was not feeling well.

Yesterday was a follow-up visit with the doctor, the second one in about 2 weeks. I am still having some issues with recovering and healing from delivering Emerson, and these visits were to do a few more things to help try and get me back to “normal”. Let’s just say I hope I never come across granulation tissue ever again. I have been cauterized twice in two weeks and go back in two more weeks to make sure I am good to go (let’s hope I am!). Yesterday’s appointment sure put me in A LOT of pain, reminiscent of being in labor again. Thankfully I am feeling better and hope that this is the last of all of these pains until the next little Detmers comes along.

I would go through this over and over again, though, as it brought us Emerson. Things like this are little compared to the happiness he is bringing us and he is worth any pain I may have.

On another note, Emerson is crazy about rolling-over. He is now waking himself up in the middle of the night (and his parents) because he rolls over on to his tummy and can’t roll from his tummy to his back. I am happy he is developing and growing, and hope he is able to learn to position himself well while sleeping so we can all get a good night’s sleep again. I guess we have been spoiled with his 12-hour stretches of sleep at night thus far :).

He is gaining such a personality, too. He talks a lot, kicks a lot, and is just overall a very happy and loving boy. I can’t hug and kiss him enough. I guess I better take advantage now while he can’t get away from me :).

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Back to Work…


Well, I’ve been back to work for about one week and it feels like I was never gone. The week has flown by and I am so busy at work I don’t have much time to dwell on the fact I’m not with my baby, which is good and bad.

Emerson is doing great at daycare and seems to be adjusting well as far as I can tell. I have been lucky enough to go visit him and feed him over lunch each day which has been wonderful as it breaks up my day, gives me something to look forward to, and gives me one fewer pumping session.

Our morning and evenings are jam packed, though, and it feels like once we get home we are just getting ready for the next day without a lot of time to really just relax. Especially Thursdays when we have class in the evenings and I only get to see Emerson for about 2 or 3 hours the entire day.

I get up earlier, go to bed later, and try to spend as much quality time with Emerson as I can. It is hard, but we are handling it okay so far and he seems to be doing well which is good (aside from the cold/allergies I think he has right now).

I miss him everyday and hate walking away from him in the mornings and over lunch, but I have to remember that he is doing well and getting out of the house is good for him. I’ve found that if I just take things one day at a time, it doesn’t seem so bad. Only one more day until Friday, though, which is great. I really appreciate my weekends so much more than I used to.

Today is his 3-month birthday…I can’t believe it has already been three months. Being in the hospital in labor seems so long ago…

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Long Weekend with Dewey


The past six days have been great. Dewey got some time off, about 4 days plus the weekend, to spend with us at home. Emerson, Tonka and I all love him being home. We got to sleep in each morning, spend time at home together, get errands run, things done around the house, and just all be together before I have to go back to work.

One of the highlights was Friday when we went and spent the afternoon at New Salem in Petersburg. We packed a picnic lunch and found a nice spot once we got there to eat and relax. Dewey and Tonka played on the playground while Emerson and I watched.  After that we went and walked through the village area and saw all of the cabins and animals. Tonka like the cows and sheep, and Emerson enjoyed a nice nap. All in all it was a good time, and something different for us to do. I was glad we found something all 4 of us could do together.

I go back to work on Tuesday, September 7th. I must admit I am already nervous/anxious about it all and how things are going to go. Of course I don’t want to leave Emerson, and I also am not sure what to expect when I get back since I have been gone for 3 months. Hopefully I can jump back in and get the hang of things again fairly quickly as I’ve been out of the loop for awhile now. I am going to really miss my sleep too, between school, work, and Emerson I think I am going to be stretched pretty far.

Enough about that, though, I need to focus on these last few days and enjoy them instead of dwelling on what’s to come. If only it were that easy.

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Two Month Doctor Appointment


Emerson’s two month appointment was yesterday, just two days after his two month birthday. Time sure has flown. This was an appointment I definitely wasn’t looking forward to (nor am I looking for to his next few appointments) as he was scheduled to get his first round of immunizations.

We found out, as we had guessed, that we have a big boy on our hands. Emerson weighed in at 13 pounds, 7.8 ounces and 24 inches long! He is in the 88th percentile for weight and the 86th for height. Those combined put him in the 99th percentile overall. Who would have thought Dewey and I of all people would have a big child?? He is doing really well, though, according to the doctor. No issues or concerns which is what we wanted to hear.

The shots sure weren’t fun for any of us. It took all I had to not start bawling in front of the nurses (I cried on my own later). Emerson didn’t hold back though, poor guy. I just wanted to snuggle with him the rest of the day, which I pretty much did. He handed it all really well though – 3 shots and one oral vaccine. No fever or anything afterwards which I was thrilled about. Just fussy and tired the rest of the day. One of the immunizations he had was oral, and after the nurse finished giving it to him he sneezed right in her face – it was pretty funny. He probably knew what was coming next.

His next appointment is in October and will pretty much be repeat of this recent one, so I’m not looking forward to it either. Stupid diseases.

We have been settling in to a pretty good routine around the house, although it is going to get turned upside down once I go back to work which is coming all too soon. The other morning was great – I woke up to find my shirt soaked with milk, and proceeded to go get Emerson out of his crib. I picked him up and his good morning to me was spit up first down the front of my shirt, and then the back. I smelled great. I’m sure that’s why Dewey just can’t wait to get home everyday 😉

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A Typical Day


Today has been pretty good so far and actually productive. As I type this I am sitting on the floor of Emerson’s room using only my left hand as he is sleeping in my right. I’m getting pretty good at one handed typing :). We’ve spent a lot of the day in here cleaning and organizing his clothing and toys. His room looks pretty good and will make my life easier since it is a lot more organized.

Dewey came home over lunch and brought me Chadito’s – it was delicious. I love when he comes home during the day – it’s great to see him and I’m sure Emerson loves the break from me.

I put Emerson in his bumbo seat for the first time today – he did better than I expected, but still has awhile until he can really use it since he needs more head control. We’re working on that with spurts of tummy-time during the day, but he doesn’t like being laid on his stomach and gets really frustrated :).

This morning was nice because Emerson ate around 7 a.m. and then went back to sleep so I got a shower first thing before he woke up again. It definitely puts a nice start to the day when I don’t have to shower with the door open so I can watch Emerson while he sits in his swing!

I also was able to get a lot more birth announcements sent out finally. I guess a month and a half after his birth is better than never. I still have more to send, but at least I am making progress.

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Life with Mr. Emerson


Well, it has definitely been awhile since my last post which kind of explains how life has been these past few weeks. Things have definitely been busy, but wonderful. I am halfway through my maternity leave and already dreading when I have to leave Emerson for a whole day. I love spending my days with him and getting to see and experience everything he does. I’m not sure how I am going to do without him by me all of the time! I guess I am lucky for these three months, though, since Dewey hasn’t been able to take near as much time off.

I think Dewey and I have been adjusting well, though, to parenthood. Emerson is so much fun and I can’t believe he is already six weeks old! Time is flying by. Emerson is smiling, cooing, giggling, holding up his head, growing, and discovering new things each day. It is so much fun to watch. I wish I could be as excited to watch my feet as he is :).

My days are still pretty much run by Emerson’s schedule. He eats every 2-3 hours, so I can’t stray too far unless I pump and leave a bottle with Dewey which we don’t do too awful much. Breastfeeding Emerson makes me really wish our society was more open to breastfeeding mothers. It is tough being in public and having to go feed him in the car because people will stare or frown upon us if we just start feeding wherever. I am very thankful, though, that  I am able to breastfeed and give him the best nutrition I can.

Emerson has been sleeping pretty well so far. He wakes up 1-2 times per night to eat and goes right back to sleep (unless he has a diaper blowout like last night). As he gets older he should need fewer feedings overnight which will make things easier, however with me not having to be at work each morning the nighttime feedings haven’t been so bad. I usually let Dewey sleep through them since he does have to be up early for work and there isn’t a whole lot he can do anyway.

Most of my days are spent at home with Emerson, playing, eating, cuddling, and trying to get things done when he naps. Lately as I have gotten more comfortable with Emerson out of the house we have been visiting more and running errands together. My mom and sister have also been great and help me out a ton when Dewey can’t.

It’s amazing how quickly time goes by each day. I have been trying to send out birth announcements for weeks and still have a ton left to mail. I’ve been meaning to blog for weeks too and just now am getting to it. It’s pretty crazy how priorities have shifted since Emerson arrived.

Tonka has been doing well with Emerson and doesn’t seem to bothered or changed by him being here. I think if anything he is just bored each day since I can’t spend as much time with him since Emerson takes most of it. I feel bad for that, but I guess there is only so much of me to go around. Dewey does a good job of taking him out on bike walks, though, and I take him out when I can as long as I am not too sore.

I’ve been healing pretty well, but am still not 100%. I have my follow-up appointment next week so we will see what the doctor says and if everything is as it should be. I never imagined it would take me this long to recover. On the bright side, I have lost nearly all of the weight I gained. On the negative side, things have redistributed and my body shape isn’t quite the same right now so a lot of my old clothes still don’t fit (mostly pants).

Emerson on the other hand has been gaining steadily. I weighed him on the scale at home and he is a little over 12 pounds (if the scale is accurate)! Not sure how long he is, but his next doctor appointment is in a few weeks. A lot of his clothes are already too small/short, so I’m thinking he is going to be tall!

All and all, though, I don’t have anything to complain about. Life is good and I am very lucky to have such a wonderful family. Now if Emerson would just stop growing and getting older :).

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Our First Two Weeks


Well, things have been very busy since the last post, to say the least. As most everyone knows, Emerson Andrew Detmers arrived early on Tuesday June 15th at 5:36 a.m.  He weighed in at 9 pounds, 4 ounces and 22 inches long. I never imagined I would have a baby that big and I sure am paying for it now! Hopefully someday I will be able to stand and walk comfortably again. :)

It was a long time at the hospital, and the delivery took awhile due to his size, but we all made it out okay in the end. Overall I labored for about 14 hours in the hospital, and 4 at home. Emerson also had some merconium in his lungs while I was in labor and before he could even cry they had to take him and suction it all out. He is doing great, though, and doesn’t appear to have any ill effects from it. We were in the hospital for a total of 3 days.

Dewey was amazing through it all. He even cut the cord! My mom and sister were with us the entire time too, on standby in case we needed them – they both didn’t sleep the whole night like us and we really appreciate their support and them being there for us. Dewey has been a great caregiver since Emerson’s arrival too. Since I can’t move around well or do too much, he’s been caring for the household and helping me to recover. I’m sure he is ready for me to be back on my feet again though. :)

Maternity leave has been okay so far. It’s tough being alone with Emerson all day while I am still healing, but I am sure it will get easier. I’m excited for the day I am well enough to drive again and bring him into the office to visit Dewey.

Emerson is proving to be a big eater. I am breastfeeding, and eventually will pump so Dewey can feed him too and of course in preparation of returning to work. We are going to give it another week or two, though, before we introduce the bottle. Hopefully his feedings level off by then. He has gained all of his weight back plus some since we left the hospital. He was a little jaundice when we left, but that is gone now too. We are trying to work on a bit of a routine/schedule with him, but it still pretty early as we are all still adjusting to the change.

The first two weeks have been a very new experience, but a welcome one. We are thrilled Emerson is finally here and love being with him and playing with him. Time is already flying by, it needs to slow down!

(Check out all of our pictures on our photos page – link to the right!)

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Week 41…waiting…


The day has FINALLY arrived. At the hospital now waiting for him to be born :) Epidurals are wonderful things.

It’s been about 8 hours since I started contracting regularly, so just killing time until he is ready!

We had our normal doctor’s appointment this morning and had a sonogram first thing. The poor guy was so crowded and smushed that his nose looked like a pig nose! We got a good picture of it though we will post. The doctor then told us that everything looked great…heart rate, fluid levels, etc., which basically meant there was no need to induce at this point since he was still doing well. To try and jumpstart things again, though, the doctor did what she called a “supercheck” and stripped my membranes and just really moved things around. We scheduled an induction for Sunday (Father’s Day) at that point unless he came sooner and made an appointment for this Thursday to make sure things were still okay.

Apparently, though, what the doctor did worked. We left our appointment around 11 and in the car ride home I was having contractions. I wasn’t sure if that’s what they were at that point, but definitely felt pain and was very uncomfortable. We made it home and I tried to walk things off and told Dewey to get to work since it was probably nothing. I then got some work done from home but things didn’t get any better. So, my sister came over to time things for me and my mom gave me some advice on what contractions felt like and what to do. I got through it at home for a few hours and finally called the doctor to see what they said. They told us to come back in to be checked again and they would decide what to do then.

We finished packing our bags in case we had to go to the hospital and were on our way. The doctor told me I was 4-5 cm at that point (was 3-4 earlier in the day) and that we could go home and hang out for a bit or go right to the hospital, but I was in a lot of pain so we chose hospital. We got all checked in and I finally got my epidural at about 5:30 pm, just in time because I was really hurting.

Last I was checked I was 5-6 and contracting every 1-2 minutes. Guess we will see how things go the rest of the night!

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